How to Introduce Toys to Your Relationship

Once you've been in a relationship for a while, it can be very difficult to switch things up. You an get stuck always going to the same restaurants, watching the same shows, and let's face it: having the same sex. So when you're ready to try something new but aren't sure how your partner feels, we have a couple ways to just caaaaasuallly get their thoughts on the matter.

Throw on an episode of TV that is about toys.
There are so many options, so you can probably choose a show that you've already been meaning to watch. Sex and the City is easily the most iconic, with its rabbit vibrator episode. Other options include Broad City episode "Knockoffs," where Abbi pegs her hot neighbor, Jane the Virgin episode "Chapter Seventy-Four," which explores the character Alba using her first vibrator, and many episodes of Grace and Frankie. There's truly a show for whatever type of sex toy you're interested in.

Give your partner a solo toy.
If your partner is a bit more reserved and has never used toys before, gift them a toy that fits their solo needs. Let them figure out what they like on their own, so when you start adding toys to your couple's repertoire, they do not feel like a foreign experience. There are wide ranges of great solo toys for all genders, so you'll have tons of options.

Go to the sex shop together.
No matter if it's early in the relationship or if you've been together for decades, communication is key! You cannot have a healthy sexual relationship if you're not talking with your partner about what they enjoy, dislike, and would like to try out. Nothing changes about then while toys are involved, so the easiest way to start figuring out what you both would like to try together is to go shopping together. That way, you can see everything that's available, talk through your thoughts, and get some helpful advice from a knowledgeable worker.

Start small.
If your partner's never used anything besides their own anatomy while having sex, the 17-inch Dick Rambone should not be your first choice. Instead, find the ideal gateway toy, like a Pocket Rocket, OptiMale Rechargeable Vibrating C-Ring, or entry-level Mood Naughty Trainer—whichever experience you two want to have together.

Remember that it's not a big deal.
Sex toys are super common, and there's a good chance that your partner has considered them, even if they haven't used them yet. Starting the conversation, in whichever way you please, should be fun and easy, the same way you'd ask if they want try any other new activity. Just remember: good sex starts with good communication.

No matter how you choose to bring it up, the most important thing to remember is to be thoughtful and open to talking through all yours and your partners ideas and concerns. And keep it light! Sex is fun; sex toys are fun, so remember that and know there's no need to approach the topic in heavy, stressed manner.

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